Battling Body Dysmorphia: My Journey as a Dad

Battling Body Dysmorphia: My Journey as a Dad

For as long as I can remember, I’ve struggled with how I see myself. No matter how much I exercised, how clean I ate, or how many compliments I received, I always found something to criticize in the mirror. My chest wasn’t defined enough, my stomach wasn’t flat enough, my arms weren’t big enough, there was always a “not enough.” Body dysmorphia isn’t just about wanting to look better; it’s a mental battle that distorts reality, making you chase an impossible version of yourself.

Becoming a dad should have shifted my priorities, but instead, it magnified my insecurities. I wanted to be strong for my kids, to set an example of confidence and self-care, but inside, I felt weak. I found myself obsessing over workouts and nutrition, not for health, but out of fear of “letting myself go.” I avoided the pool with my kids, dodged photos, and let self doubt steal moments I should have been fully present for. Instead of appreciating my body for what it could do, carry my children, work long hours, show up every day. I only saw its perceived flaws.

It took time to recognise that my body dysmorphia wasn’t just a personal struggle; it was impacting my family. My kids didn’t care about my abs or muscle definition, they cared about my energy, my laughter, my ability to play and be present. Slowly, I started shifting my mindset. Instead of punishing my body, I focused on fueling it. Instead of chasing an unrealistic image, I worked on feeling strong and capable. The biggest change wasn’t in the mirror, it was in my perspective.

This journey is ongoing, but I’m learning to appreciate my body for more than aesthetics. It carries me through fatherhood, through stress, through long days and sleepless nights. That’s why I created Reboot, not to chase perfection, but to support dads in feeling their best, inside and out. If you’re struggling with body image, know this: You are more than what you see in the mirror. Your value isn’t measured by your physique but by the love and effort you bring to your life and your family.

Much Love & I hope you find great support in using reboot.